Dannys Desk

To Take Charge of Your life, Be Intentional about Influence
To take charge of your life, you must be Intentional about Leadership . Influence is to persuade somebody to buy a product, consider a service, believe a way of life, buy into an idea, a company, an enterprise, or just to a better life.
We all have the chance and the opportunity to influence somebody else’s thinking, their future, or their life. The key is to develop the skills to do it. You can influence people casually, haphazardly, or intentionally. The key to
influence people on purpose is to learn the skills of how to do it.

To Take Charge of Your life, Be Sincere
To take charge of your life, you must be sincere. To accomplish something, you have to be sincere. “Sincerity is not a test of truth. Don’t make a mistake of saying “he must be right because he’s so sincere; the reason is that it’s possible to be sincerely wrong.
You have to decide for yourself what is truth. You have to learn to “weigh sincerity on sincerity scale and weigh truth on truth scale.” Don’t weigh truth on sincerity scale.

To Take Charge of Your life, Search for New Ideas
To take charge of your life, you must search for new ideas. Ideas are not that far away. “Everything you need is within reach.” The ideas you need to change your life or your business is within reading reach, it’s within listening reach.
There is a probably a library not too far from most people but the problem is “most people drive by the library, few people stop by.” For example, KENYA libraries are free but very few go to read there. The key is not that it’s within reach; the key is who is going to reach.
There is a simple Bible phrase that says “if you search, you will find.” It’s very important to know that “finding is reserved for the searchers.” “You don’t find what you need; you find what you search for.”
Neediness is not the prerequisite for getting value.” “You can’t be a needer; you have to be a searcher.” But if you search, if you try, if you go, if you listen, ideas are within reach. “There is nothing so powerful as an idea who time has come.”
A business idea, social idea, investment idea, good health idea, social idea, all you need is a refinement of an idea to make an impact in your life.

To Take Charge of Your life, Go some extra miles
To take charge of your life, you must be willing to go some extra miles. It doesn’t take much to make a significant difference as life passes. A small difference in a change of discipline, or a change of thinking, can start you on journey to happiness, instead of regrets.
It’s very important to know if you are headed towards happiness or regrets 10 years from now . The key is to start right now to make the little changes to walk this new road. Just a few daily disciplines make a great deal of difference in one year, three years, five years, ten years from now.
“ Ten years from now, you will surely arrive, the question is where?”

You are doing enough things (say 10%) to have arrived at where you are today. You might think you need to do about 90% to make the difference for your life. Maybe all you need is that extra 5-10% of intellectual change, activity change, a refinement of disciple or a refinement of thought. Just a few changes in your reading discipline, few disciplines of the mind, few disciplines of activity.
All you need is the ideas to make these simple changes and the equity starts gathering. “Now is the time to fix the next 10 years .” For example, are you reading the book that will take you where you want to go in the next 10 years ?

Did you know that love can be explained? There are three neurotransmitters involved in attraction. Dopamine, adrenaline and serotonin.

Dopamine makes you feel good, it has the same effect on your brain as doing cocaine. That’s how you get addicted to that idiot… Yes come beat…

This is where couples show higher dopamine levels, you find that you have suppressed hunger, high energy, higher ability to focus, some even become expert poets and less need for sleep. Remember those late night chats? Haki this explains why am hungry all the time and i sleep like newborn babies.

Haisuru, where were we? Ooh yes Adrenaline. When you start to fall in love with a person, your stress response is activated. This increases the level of adrenaline and cortisol in your blood. Now this explains why you might have sweat palms and a racing heart when you see your new lover. Hii Ni matatizoo.

Anywho, next up serotonin. Serotonin levels have actually been shown to drop in people who are in love. This can be compared to someone with OCD, and no most of you don’t have OCD, i mean obsessive compulsive disorder. You know the jumpy jumpy and anxiety kind? This explains the anxiety and nervousness.

All this chemical talk has got me thinking about pheromones. You know those chemicals that animals and humans produce to attract mates? This explains why Tinder is not a good idea… Pheromones are excreted through the skin and can be found on your tears and sweat. They can help you get the right genetically compatible mate. Imagine scientists did this research where women would smell a shirt worn by different men. And guess what? They choose someone who DNA is different from their own. Kuddos evolution.

Now how does all this work? Well all your senses play part in this. Pheromones use our sense of smell, and our sense of sight is another big determinant. That big gluteus Maximus and the sight of good melons. Kaa hapo ukifloat. Well, see that cute human being over there? Stop looking I was just messing with you. Anyway our instinct is to be visually attracted to that person who shows characteristics of being fit for reproduction. Or in some cases just the first part of it.

Our ears also contribute to this attraction business. Hearing a person’s voice along with the way they speak in some cases higher or lower levels of attraction. While sense of touch can be a very important part of anyone’s relationship. It really can make or break the beginning of stages. Many people become uninterested in a person after a bad first kiss or hunkie pankie… (don’t judge me, my kids might read this in the future). But are they making a bigger deal out of it? Not really, getting this close to a person, your sense of smell, taste, touches and others are all working together. And when your brain reacts positively to a first kiss and maybe the other one, your body is flooded with norepinephrine. Your body goes to fight or flight mode. (This explains one night stands that never become two nights). Your heart beats faster, and the norepinephrine creates a sort of narrow tunnel vision to help you focus on the QT infront of you or run away. Now i know why some people dress up quickly after you know what.

This chemical can warp your sense of time and also improve your memory. Haki someone give me a smooch.. I have time to kill..

Have you ever been in love? And… I don’t know how to really ask you this… but, will you share this to someone else?

Thanks for reading.

Warning this write up contains words that some readers may find defensive if you are affected by any other content in this you please contact literally anyone else but me.

Before i forget i’d like to say that this blog will be a bit different to normal, because it will contain a lot of opinion, but i feel so passionately about this topic that it needs to be addressed.

So if you are sensitive and easily offended kindly give this one a miss. If you have arched the news or read the papers and any social media, in recent years you have noticed a trend of  a group that is offended by everything.

Whether you been a witness to it or not there is an ever growing number of ultra politically correct, far left militants, that are hell bent campaigning for a cause for people who they have never met or even never asked them to complain for them in the first place.

And no this isn’t about politics, it for more seriously than that. This is about maintaining our freedom and rights as human beings. And no, sadly am not exaggerating.

Okay, so what the hell i’m I going on about? Let me tell you about a fairly recent case that just goes to prove my point about how deadly political correctness can be. In November 2009 a psychologist working in the us army , Nidal Malik Hassan, opened fire on the other troops in the base shouting God is great in arabic. 13 people were killed. It was soon discovered that the Pentagon knew all about Hassan’s radical ideologies way before this act of terrorism. They knew about the emails he sent to together radical Muslims. Even his own colleagues at the base had expressed their discomfort about him to to others, saying he was a ticking time bomb.

 So how on earth could be US government and the senior army management simply allow this mass murder to take place?

Well because of the powers that be within the US army were too afraid of being accused of racially profiling someone to take any action against him. And so because of the unyielding pressure of political correctness in the modern age, 13 people tragically had to die.

We have a snowflake, overly sensitive millennials who feel entitled to being offended. These keyboard warriors hide behind their cell phones and laptop keyboards, lashing out on everything and everyone who says something they don’t like. They crucify comedians, movies and other TV content that say anything that doesn’t go with your taste of words.

This has inevitably led to a rapid decline in creativity. And now we have to suffer through tasteless comedies and movies.

What is the true problem today? It is millennials who have in their mind the feelings of entitlement, that they believe to censor everyone. This is because, these kids most especially in the west, having grown in a time of no violence, war, of oppression and poverty, they have never known what it’s like to not have everything.

They think being offended means something, well it doesn’t. If you are offended handle it like everyone else used to or does.

Actually well let me tell you straight, being offended doesn’t mean anything it’s a natural human response. It’s ok to be offended or even disgusted. But that doesn’t mean you oppress others because they offended you. If someone calls you stupid, be mad. But doesn’t mean tweet and Facebook against people using the word stupid. That’s actually very… stupid.

And it’s also a little something we like to call OPPRESSION. I’m not talking about every young person out there.  I’m simply talking about a small small minority but as is often the case in life, it’s the few that spoil it for the many.

Just because you are offended by a specific thing, it does not mean that the rest of the world should be. Because we are all unique, and may vary in difference of opinions. We don’t even have the same faiths and beliefs. And if we did have the same beliefs, that doesn’t sound like fun does it?

For example i get offended by people who drink instant coffee, that doesn’t mean I make people drink chocolate. Because that’s not right. I can’t go forcing my opinions down people’s throats.  Should i care everyone out there is offended by different things? I can guarantee that, no matter what you think of, there will be someone out there in the world he finds it offensive. You can never fully police every freedom speech and people behaviours because doing so who be trying to police everyone and everything that they say. This snowflake generation, are trying to police everything. We are humans and we are allowed to be different from each other, both on ideologies and opinions. So you can’t force everyone to be like you.

 I don’t know about you, but i would say that attempting to prevent people from thinking of certain way, from saying what they want and stopping them for behaving in a natural and human way is the opposite of freedom of speech.

I hope that, and a desire for free speech to be still well and alive within our society. It’s ok to be offended. But forcing it down our throats is not.

So the next time that someone get offended and complains against you for sitting the wrong way in public, for eating meat, for buying Mtura, for using gender pronoun, for openly supporting your favourite political party, for casually flirting with a stranger or just making a joke that’s not funny to them, for innocently touching another  human being, for openly praying for your chosen deity, for simply earning more money than your peers, or simply because you don’t identify as a non-conforming gender fluid, pansexual cabbage. Do not stand for it, not for a moment.

Because at the end of the day, you are being yourself. And believe me, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If simply being yourself and doing what you know, and what comes natural to you offends someone else, then it’s their problem to deal with. Don’t let them make it yours or anybody else’s.

If you have miraculously read through all that… good job and thanks for your time.

1. Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gifts and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.

2. Get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.

3. Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.

5. Show kindness to everyone. Some small boys today will be big boys tomorrow. The biggest dog in the neighbourhood was once a puppy. Keep the information/secret to yourself.

6. Always plan ahead and be proactive. He that plans the future works less in the future.

7. Listen to speeches and messages from great teachers, both religious and educational.

8. Attend seminars and trainings on any area you need to improve yourself – Train the trainer, personal development, public speaking, sales etc.

9. Have the habit of keeping a pen and a writing pad handy because ideas come in the form of flashes. The smallest pen is bigger and better than the biggest brain.

10. Make sure at every point in time you are reading a book. If you spend 20 minutes reading daily, for 52 weeks you would have consumed 1,000,000 words.

11.Stay away from television as much as possible. You can watch educational channels. Men with big TV sit in front of them to watch men with big libraries.

12 Put control over your mouth; never say evil of any man; what you are not certain of should not be said. Say good of all men.

13. Always show appreciation for any good deed you received.

14. Always help someone in need.

15. Live a debt free life. What you can’t pay cash for is not your size.

16. Give out loans that you can part with as gift, so that you don’t destroy your business and relationship.

17. Create legitimate multiple sources of income.

18. Save at least 10 percent of your income.

19. Invest a portion of your income, and be patient to see it grow. If what you have in your hands is not good to be called a harvest then it’s a seed; sow it.

20. Keep a good financial record of all income and expenses, so you won’t ask later “where did my money go”

21. Be involved in community service- Control traffic, free lesson class for students etc.

22. Keep getting better on your daily goals and dream, develop yourself on them and make sure you get to the top 10 % of your industry.

23. Make sure you engage in physical exercise. It keeps your brain alert and your body fit to enjoy your success.

24. Pray often, and know that for every success, God made it possible.

Wishing you the very best in life. Practice what you just read, and see the difference.

May you live a happy and prosperous life. 🙏😃😉