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Things I wish I knew in my early 20s

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1. Focus on becoming useful.

All this stuff about finding happiness and doing what you’re passionate about is a distraction. 

Focus on building your value to the world

Sure, experiment with lots of stuff first, but gradually begin focusing on being great at less…

Happiness will spring out of your sense of contribution

2. Put money aside.

When it seems like you have all the time in the world, saving money seems pointless.

But you will thank your younger self for putting away some cash into savings – because that shit grows and accumulates fast.

Create that account, then make it impossible to take money out.

3. You don’t need ‘fixing.’

Ignore people who say you need to work on your issues.

There’s nothing wrong with you. 

Thinking you have baggage and trauma keeps you in fear and limits you. 

Instead, focus on creating experiences, making others happy, and building cool things.

4. Society wants you weak and depressed.

There is more wisdom in you than in the crowd.

The net result of tuning into what the masses want for you is depression and a one-way ticket to Loser Ville. 

Follow what you know is right and ignore trends.

5. Don’t believe anything’ mainstream.’

Mainstream media is nothing more than entertainment designed to make you fearful so you depend on them for solutions.

The only advice I ever get is from happy people who are doing well.

Trends, the news, dietary advice, mainstream entertainment – all clueless.

6. Don’t become dependent on stimulants.

I always say that the less you need, the freer you are.

Stimulant addiction plays a major role in this, and will severely limit yourself, even seemingly inconsequential and ‘accepted’ forms of stimulation like porn, sugar, caffeine, nicotine, and video games.

Enjoy them occasionally if you need, but never get dependent.

7. Focus on making others happy.

We live in a narcissistic culture. 

You must fight against this hubristic trend that will inevitably lead to its downfall. 

You will win, regardless of the chaos, when you let go of yourself and focus on improving the lives of others.

8. Emotional control is your most important skill.

There’s no better way to ensure a terrible life when you struggle to manage your emotions.

You have work to do if you fly into a rage at a triggering. 

This kind of thing can ruin your entire life.

Developing the habit of remaining calm is the most important skill you can nurture.

9. Start becoming exceptional at one thing.

While everyone else is running around trying hundreds of things and never getting good at any one thing, you’re different.

But don’t sacrifice becoming a master at any one thing in the process.

The world lacks focused expertise, whether in fixing cars, marketing, plumbing, writing, or sales. 

This will get you far.

10. Trust no one, but be gracious.

Trusting no one doesn’t mean you’re a sociopath, it means you protect your time, energy and resources. 

You needn’t grow bitter.

You can be pleasant and courteous, but you can never assume trust from anyone. That’s ok.

Humans aren’t perfect, but you must remain rational and careful at every step.

11. Stop stopping.

Few are capable of finishing what they start. 

They get excited about some novelty, but the excitement soon wears off and they’re on to the next shiny thing.

Reps in anything will compound. 

So you must find strength in staying with boredom. 

Consistency is then inevitable, which lies at the heart of true success.

12. Don’t make decisions that could trap you for decades.

If there’s a chance you could make a very costly decision, avoid making it.

If you’re willing to deal with the worst possible outcome, then by all means, go for it.

But if you understand of what you’re getting into is even 5% hazy, steer clear.

13. Train your body.

Getting healthy shouldn’t be a habit you start in your thirties. It begins now.

Not only will your older body thank you for training and eating well, but you will spend your twenties feeling x4 better than everyone else.

You will gain a massive advantage over your hungover and anxious comrades.

14. Leave home.

If leaving your home town or country makes you nervous, that’s even more reason to do it. 

Travel shaped my character like little else, and I’m so grateful for spending most of my twenties living overseas.

You aren’t free if you can’t stomach the idea of being geographically flexible, especially in this chaotic world.

I’ve collected adventures and friendships across the globe, and this serves me and the man I am today.

THINGS TO TEACH YOUR SON

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THINGS TO TEACH YOUR SON… 

1. How to clean and organize their space

A clean and organized man is focused. 
A disorganized man is a turn off.

Teach them how to;
• Make their beds
• Clean their rooms
• Stay clean and neat

It’s attractive.

2. How to cook

A man who knows several recipes is attractive.
There’s also no reason they should marry young because they can’t cook

3. How to dance 

Men dance, but not twerking on tiktok, Instagram and snapchat.
If you can’t, send them to a dance class. 
The world has enough soy already. 
Raise a strong son who can dance with his wife

4. How to talk to girls

You can’t teach him how to be a man.
But dealing with women is just as important as being a man.

He ought to know;

– When to talk
– What to say
– How to

You’ll give him an unfair advantage over his peers.

5. How to be kind but not overly kind 

Men grow thinking they should be saviors.
Let him know when to be kind and to who.

6. How to talk when it matters

Teach your son the importance of dealing with their issues before expecting anyone to help them. 

A “needy man” is despised.
As men, they should only tell enough but listen a lot


7. How to do laundry 

To raise an all-round son, he needs the basics. 
Most basic skills are boring but they’re vital.

8. How to be outgoing 

Your son should be out of his room unless it’s bedtime. 

The more he’s alone behind closed doors, the higher the chances he’s;

• Watching porn
• Jerking off to nude strangers online 
• Arguing with strangers on socials

He’d rather be with friends

9. How to stand on his own 

Your son is attached to your care and attention. 
Make it clear it’s not forever. 
He’ll have to stand on his own.
Life might be kinky but it’s fun

These things are rare nowadays. Raise your boy to be a man who can handle himself within the world around him